Brutally Honest

You know those “confessions” posts that bloggers often do? Well this is me being brutally honest. I’ve been jarring them up for too long. My intent is never to insult anybody. This is not a mean-spirited attempt at being entertaining. But I’m also tired of being cutesy ;)


1. I don’t care for blog giveaways. I do sometimes host them on my blog because it’s a fun way to give back to readers with prizes I actually like. But in general I don’t read or participate in the giveaways of others because I already own enough crap I don’t use. I think it takes away from what could otherwise be quality content on blogs. Especially when they happen weekly. It’s irritating. If I liked hearing about people winning things, I’d get the Game Show Network.

2. I get a little irked when people say “You’ll be better in no time!” about my arm injury. Don’t worry if you’ve said this, I’m certainly not mad at you. I understand those who say it are coming from a good place and I really appreciate the intention.

But I feel like assuming my injury will heal up fast minimizes what I’m going through. This has been the longest month of my life, and saying “no time” reminds me I still have many months of healing ahead of me.  I’m not a drama queen. I know the specifics of my own injury, and I’m trying not to fool myself about it.

3. I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. Ever notice that men are really good at staying in a job for 20 years, but women change jobs every 2 years? What’s up with that? What’s wrong with us?

4. I feel like a giant loser for moving back home. Despite the fact that it’s what I reallyreally want to do.

5. As a follow up, my family is kind of in shambles right now. This only fuels my need to be home with them as soon as possible. Not just for them, but for me too.

6. I think a lot of health conscious people are too obsessive and take it to an extreme where it is no longer healthy. Most people have inherent obsessive tendencies, and it’s obvious a lot of people channel that towards healthy eating and exercise.

Unfortunately, it’s often ignored. Or worse, praised because it’s disguised as a good thing. It’s not. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen or heard of a person freaking out about eating white bread. Freaking out about ingesting 1/4 cup white flour is NOT healthy.

7. I used to play a lot of music, namely guitar, piano and singing. But I gave it up because I thought I wasn’t good enough. Even though I was constantly encouraged by others to continue, my own self doubts are what made me stop. Playing music makes me feel inadequate.

8. I can’t read books with one hand. I drop it every time I try to turn the page. I’ve been dying to do a book review on here, but I haven’t been able to get through it.

9. I’m really, really messy. Not dirty per se, as I’m scared of getting smelly things, bugs or mold. But you know how some people look at a mess and get really bothered to the point where they have to clean it up? Well, I’m the opposite.

My brain quickly becomes accustomed to things being out of place until I no longer notice them. Say I emptied the contents of my purse on the middle of the living room floor. I could easily learn to live around that within a couple days until having junk in the centre of the room became the norm for me. Just like having a coffee table there. It’s weird.

10. I can wholeheartedly recommend Adora calcium chocolates.


The company offered me a couple bags to feature on the blog. I first tried these at the Healthy Living Summit and already knew I liked them.


They sent me the milk chocolate and dark chocolate flavours. The milk is my favourite! Creamier and sweeter. I’ve always been a milk chocolate gal.


Each chocolate is 30 calories and offers 500mg calcium, 250 IU vitamin D and 40mg of magnesium. That’s half of the recommended daily dosage of calcium, 62% of your vitamin D and 10% magnesium.


Now, be warned the texture is a little “chalky.” Nothing over the top, but not quite “melt in your mouth” like the high end stuff. But in my opinion, the cost-benefit is 100% worth it. They make for the perfect after lunch dessert!!

I have to admit, Adora also offered me a giveaway, but I declined because it wouldn’t be open to Canadians. As #1 states, I’m picky about my giveaways, including having those that are open to my countrymen! If you’re in the States, I definitely recommend checking them out. If not, you can always order online.

Phew. Feels good to get all that off my chest. Sometimes we just gotta be brutally honest, ya know?

Question of the Day: What’s one thing you’re dying to get off your chest?

Posted on March 16, 2011, in Injury, Reviews and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 75 Comments.

  1. I felt the same way when I moved home to..Like a complete and utter failure..

    Your not though!

  2. Love your honesty!
    I’m dying to tell you that #4 is total BS my friend. You are not at all loser. Quite the opposite in fact, I mean you moved to Toronto and made such an impact on our fair city with your awesome self and blog. Be proud of that you did well :)

  3. love this post! Here’s something I’m dying to get off my chest: I have some people who comment on every post I write. I feel guilty that I don’t even like most of their blogs, but comment there anyway just because I feel I should. Does anyone else do this?

    • TRUTH! 100%! I feel super guilty about it. And sometimes I force myself to go check out their blog and be supportive but it just drives me batshit.

    • I used to comment on blogs as sort of a “thank you” for commenting on mine. Holy time consuming. I still click over on the blogs of all commenters to check them out (need to put a face and personality to them!) but I’ve stopped commenting unless they post about something I really feel the need to react to.

  4. I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up either. When I was little, I used to say “happy”. I think there was something to that. (And don’t worry, I’m messy too.)

    • Happy is what I always used to say too!! I think I too often associate “happy” with the idea of “job” when the two may not be as related as I think…

  5. It’s good to let go sometimes, especially if there’s a lot on your mind that is bothering you. I love Adora, and I’ll be having a giveaway. Sad to hear that it’s just US only. :(

    • I know! Adora needs to come to Canada!! (along with a gazillion other products). But now I can at least direct my American friends to your site :)

  6. L-O-V-E your honesty lady! I bet you feel so much better lady.

    Your number 3: I totally understand the whole you are not sure what you want to be when you grow up. I turn 24 in a month and I have an amazing career as a 2nd grade teacher, but my heart longs to be a nurse. So this spring I am going back to school to become a nurse.

    Your number 4: Never, never feel like a loser for moving back home. I moved away from home twice and both times I have always came back home. Sometimes it is for the better. More people do it then you realize!

    Your number 6: I LOVE how you addressed that some health conscious can take it to the obsessive level. I have been feeling this way for quite some time, especially since I follow some hard core ones on twitter. I understand that is there passion, but man oh man that is all they tweet about. At times it can be to much, and makes me wonder if they have a life outside of health.

    The one thing I am dying to get off my chest is when people say ‘FML’. I dislike it so much that I hate it. Most people say it over the smallest things; sitting in traffic, not getting their treadmill at the gym or other silly things.

    • I legitimately hate the term “FML”! It’s so depressing. People use it way too loosely for a statement that has so much negative meaning.

  7. So true about men staying in jobs and women bouncing all over the place- what the heck?

  8. I get completely immune to messiness as well. I like it call it being low maintenance, but my husband might say otherwise. As for growing up, I have no idea what I really want to be either, and I spent two and a half years on a Master’s degree!

    Thanks for the honesty. It’s refreshing.

  9. Being honest is awesome. I need to do it more often. I have been itching to blog about some stuff that is semi-personal but keep holding back because I don’t want to offend anyone!

    #3. I am in the process of getting my credential to teach high school but I’m still not 100% sure that’s what I want forever. I want to change often and be happy!

    I’m dying to get this off my chest, it frustrates me to no end when people comment on my weight loss efforts and give unsolicted advice. “Oh you shouldn’t drink that beer.” “Don’t eat carbs!” Sometimes I realize that people mean well but other times, it makes me feel so irritated!

    • Unsolicited advice really irks me too! I think it’s because it’s hard to give it without it being perceived as “holier than thou” or preachy.

      • Haha, this cracked me up. I’m Canadian, but my husbands side of the family is Brazilian…they ONLY give unsolicited advice…my mother-in-law has been known to discuss openly in front of the whole family how white I am and how I should tan a little first before going to the beach and how I really should buy a bikini that’s more Brazilian if I am to fit in here…(that’s just the tip of the iceberg) *grin* LOVED this post.

  10. OMG I read this and my first thought was, oh crap did I tell her she’d be better in no time? And my second thought was, wow I wish we lived in the same city because I want to be in-person friends with you. But then I felt like a creepy crazy person but…

    Ok…something to get off my chest. I’ve been seeing a counselor for a few weeks to work through my shit. It’s been terrifying and thrilling at the same time. I REALLY want to blog about this journey but am afraid of being that vulnerable about what’s going on, mostly because my friends and family (and I think some coworkers too) read my blog and I don’t want them judging me. My current blog isn’t me anymore anyway. I have a blog called Healthy Twists and I don’t feel all that healthy most of the time in one way or another. I came up with an idea to basically re-do my whole blog (but keep the name because well, it’s paid for) to go along with the theme of searching for health from the inside out and the idea that I haven’t got any of it figured out, but I’m getting there. But I don’t know how to go about making that leap. So…that’s me.

    Oh and…yeah I don’t notice mess either. Marrying a neat freak is sorta good because well, Mitch cleans and clean is nice, but he just doesn’t get why clutter doesn’t bother me the way it does him. But that’s what he’s signing up for and he knows this.

    • 1. We are totally friends, just on opposite oceans ;) 2. I saw a psychologist for a couple years and it was THE best thing I ever did for preserving my sanity. I wouldn’t be as well adjusted as I am today without it. I still consider counseling from time to time because I know how important it is to have a person removed from your life to talk to. I love the new blog idea!! 3. Besides being tall and a Beatles fan, my future husband also must be tidy. I require a clean influence or else it never gets done!

  11. You wanted to move back home and you did it. It would have been worse if you didn’t just because of what people might think. Who cares? Do your own thing.

    I always confess, so I don’t have any new ones. I agree with the blog giveaway thing though. Now I rarely enter unless it’s a lifetime supply of Chobani….literally.

  12. I agree about the giveaways and #6 wholeheartedly. I do enter food giveaways for the most part because I’m broke and free food helps :) But sometimes it’s definitely overkill. And #6 – totally. I positively can’t stand it when people refer to “being good” because they’re eating low calorie diets and then claiming that they were bad because they ate such and such. So destructive.

  13. You are the best :)

    Here’s a confession from me: I am a huge music snob and nearly every time a blogger I follow posts their workout playlist I cringe. (I’m half joking…I do love hearing the occasional top 40 song when I’m dying on the treadmill.) But yeah, I definitely judge people by their music taste. BAD ME!

    I hope you don’t truly feel like a loser for moving home!! Seems to me like you took Toronto by storm, and there’s nothing stopping you from coming back sometime in the future, oui?

    • Omg. I am a huge music snob too and totally scoff at other workout playlists sometimes. Top 40 (for the most part) kills my soul. I actually love scrolling through your blog and listening to the YouTubes you post!!

  14. Susan – you are not a loser for wanting to be at home. The older I get, the more I get the pull of home and its importance.

    And pick up the guitar when your arm gets better. Or heck, use it for part of your PT when finger mobility comes back! Just get one of those knee rests to take pressure off your arm. You don’t have to be great to enjoy it. Play music for its own sake. (I have picked mine up as of the first of the year and making slow progress and am starting to feel good about it!).

    I have to say that I don’t like gang mentality that can happen on blogs and forums. Like if someone has a legitimate different opinion than the original poster, other commenters will come in and call them a troll or be mean to them. I don’t get that.
    Or the tribe mentality that happens on a certain eating style, whether it is vegan or paleo or low carb or fruititarian when they get so involved with their way of eating and show disdain to others.

    Maybe I could have summed that up with 2 words – closed minded LOL.

    • “Close minded” is the perfect way of putting it. Those who’ve had success doing one thing, who then assume it will work on everyone and push it on them

      I’m proud of your for picking up guitar again!! It will be at least a few months until I can twist my wrist up to grip a guitar neck. But I can still turn my hand down to play a piano ;)

  15. Surprisingly, there isn’t anything I’m dying to get off my chest right now. Lately I’ve been pretty open with the people who are close to me. But one thing I want to comment on is the obsession factor that can come with healthy eating and exercising. I used to be that way, and I can’t believe I lived like that. I feel so much happier and healthier being a moderate eater. During that time, I thought I was being extraordinarily healthy, but I was actually the unhealthiest I had ever been in my life. Moderation is the key. That’s why I love the name of your blog! Life is definitely a great balancing act.

    • I used to be that way too. I think that’s why I can so easily identify it, and why I get so upset when people fool themselves into thinking their obsessive ways are actually healthy :(

  16. ohhhhh, i feel bad about saying you’ll get there soon, i know you said not too but i do. i’m sorry.

  17. I think these are really great points (and I feel the same way about a lot of them), and I applaud you for being brave enough to post them. While I love blogging, I find that there can be a lot of insincerity and it’s refreshing that you shared your honest thoughts.

    Hmm, this may be somewhat petty, but I’ve been getting really annoyed lately with the careless use of punctuation and grammar that I’ve been seeing around.

    Oh, and you are SO not a loser for moving home. Your family is your family, and sometimes… you just need to be with them. No shame in that!

  18. I’m only 23 (today) but I’m absolutely terrified of that I will never fall in love and get married. I know I’m still young and so I keep this worry to myself because I don’t want to sound ridiculous, but I see all my friends in serious relationships (or even just dating around) and I’m scared that I’m too closed off from other people to ever successfully let someone in.

    BTW, you are totally NOT a loser in any way shape or form – I’m in law school and living at home and I have no intention of moving out any time in the near (or really distant) future =)

    Nicole G

    • Confession – I saw it was your b-day on Facebook and wanted to wish you a happy one but thought it might be weird! Anyways, I hope it was a happy one!! (with cake!)

      I’m 25 and have the exact. same. fears. I hardly ever meet guys I’m remotely interested in. Mostly because I’m so closed off that I have no interest in getting close to anyone else.

  19. Great post! I agree about giveaways, I think they have their place and are a very nice way to give back to your readers, but not if you have one all the time. I am also a milk chocolate kind of girl ;)

  20. 1. Agreed.
    4/5. People move home for a million different reasons, it doesn’t mean they’re failures. My older brother lost his job in Vancouver about a year ago and moved home last July. For the first time since my dad had his stroke five years ago, I am not the only person in Victoria to help him. I never realised how much that was affecting me emotionally/physically. I will be forever grateful to the federal government for laying off my brother.
    7. Me, too. There’s a reason I only play piano when I’m by myself. I was good, dammit, I got to grade nine! I taught for a few years! But then I started hanging out with people who wanted to become professional musicians and it killed my confidence. I’ve since learned to just play for fun, even if that does mean alone in my room.

    • Yes! I’m properly trained too, but spend too much time with actual musicians who are trying to make music their job. I can’t feel bad about my tinkering in it when it’s only a hobby!!

  21. I want to get off my chest: I really dislike when readers judge me about what I eat. I’ve come a long way, lost 100 pounds….and kept it OFF. unlike many weight loss blogs in this community– I’m not currently trying to Lise weight. I KNOW how to maintain my weight loss–I don’t need people to tell me what I’m doing “wrong.”

    • I have no idea why anyone would criticize the diet of a blogger who has maintained such a significant weight loss. I’ve seen it on other blogs too. If anything, I think 100lbs gone and kept gone is a long time to figure out what your body needs and what it can handle!

  22. I’m not 100% sure if doing IT is what I want to do for the rest of my life, being 29 I kinda feel like I dont have a lot of time to swap or spend 2-3 years re-training. I’ve been at my current job for 10 years in June (HELLLOOO Long Service Leave and snowboarding in New Zealand) but I have 2 female friends that have been at the same job for 5-6 years. I have a big passion for design, interior, graphic, furniture but dont know what to do next.

    As for No.4 thats total bollocks. You’ve gone and seen a bit of the world, been a bit adventures and if you and your family need/want you back then that’s where you’re meant to be. When recovered you’ll find another adventure, perhaps Australia :). Also, I’m 29 and only just about to move out of home, and I still have fun and travel but have built up an awesome savings to now move out.

    • By far, the best part about moving home is that it will allow me to start saving money to travel more! Toronto is fun, but I was living paycheck to paycheck, so getting out of the city was hard. Hopefully going home will actually allow me to see more of the world!

  23. (hi, I lurk most of the time but I love your blog) Um, I agree with pretty much everything you said. which proves to me again that you rock :) I love honesty.

    I wanted to say something about your number 6), I recently cut back on blog reading (for various reasons, mostly because I need to spend more time OFF of the computer), and I took a bunch of daily eats type blogs off of my reader (so there was fewer posts every day)….and I feel SO MUCH better about daily life now. I find that I eat healthier, less, exercise happier, and with less guilt, because I am no longer obsessing about food! I think food obsession is contagious.

    I was a little sad back in the day when you changed away from daily-eats blogging, but now that I’ve lived with it for a while I PREFER your blog nowadays! It’s a much healthier outlook….dare I say more balanced? ;)

    By the way, I’m looking forward to your posts after you move back home, it is obvious how much happier you are there (it really shows)!

    • Food obsession is totally contagious!! Mind you, food is a passion of mine so I think about it a lot. But I now realize I would be venturing into the realm of unhealthy if I took up food journaling AND reading the hardcore daily eats blogs. There is a lot more to life than what me and a bunch of strangers are ingesting that particular day ;)

      Also, thank you for de-lurking and the super sweet words!!

  24. My boobs, at my age I really could use a “lift”…get it, off my chest. Thought you might need a laugh after all the seriousness. Moving back home is great, living close to or with family is something that the Western culture has gotten away from and I think that society is suffering (speaking from the child who joined the military and left home)…

    • Bahaha, it’s about time someone “went there” with a joke :P I totally think families are meant to be close to each other. I come from a large and very close family. I dream of the day when me and my siblings all have kids and live in the same city!

  25. Ya know.. I’m with you on #3. I’m 28, have a B.S. degree, completed one year in a biomedical sciences program (didn’t finish) and 2 years of an M.S. program (didn’t finish) and I still don’t know what will make me happy. I’m glad you reminded me that I’m not the only one..
    Your blog has been inspiring and given me TONS of new ideas and thoughts regarding health and fitness. I’m guilty of feeling like I have to “keep up” with other bloggers sometimes.. with number of posts, interesting, thought-provoking content etc. Then I remember that if I’m trying so hard to keep up with the enthusiastic bloggers, all of my content will start to run together (heaven knows my life isn’t quite that interesting). I want it to be memorable.. not cookie cutter!

    • Yes!! And I truly believe that if you write about what you want to write, in the way you want to write it, you’ll get the right “audience” for you. I used to think I had to blog a certain way to be successful. But we can do it differently and still be successful in our own right. Who says there’s only one way to do it! :)

  26. I have something I need to get off my chest . . . a confession of sorts:

    If you tweet your blog entry more than two times you’re not making a fan out of me. It’s called spam and I’ll stop following you for it.

    Whew! That is all! :P lol

    And I’m really not as cranky pants as that came off to be!!!

    • HA! Two tweets is actually my limit! One the evening I post, and one the next day if I remember to. Even worse is when they re-tweet the link using the exact same words. At least word it differently!

  27. Two things. You shouldn’t feel like a loser for moving home. You don’t need me or anyone else to tell you that doing what you want to do is exactly the opposite of being a big loser. I wish I could move home. I wish there was a way I could make it a financially viable decision. But it ain’t, unfortunately. So I’m stuck in a city where I work a shit job and never see anyone because I have no time and also no money. So if anyone should feel like a big loser…
    Also, as someone who played in a band with you, I thought you were pretty good.

    • Thank you Colin!! If you can’t move home, you better at least save up enough money to take that big adventure! Being at home will actually allow me to save up more money to do more exciting things. In Toronto I felt kind of stuck living paycheck to paycheck…

  28. I’m going to graduate in June, and then I’m going to move back home. I’ll have a BA in lit. journalism, but I have no idea what I want to do with it. I’m scared because I’m already 25 and I feel SO guilty for still having to be at home. I love my parents and I want them to feel proud of me and know where I’m going. I want more direction.

  29. Wow susan. you want my confession? I don’t care for those “confession” posts. But in your case, I totally love it!

    I agree with most of what you said (except for the adore disks, never tried them). I too gave up playing the piano because I wan’t all that goos. I also gave up acting for that same reason! I dont care much for giveaways ( I think I’ve only done like two) and I cant stress enough that whole “too healthy” being unhealthy thing! I think you know my thoughts on this, but your dead on. Anything in the extreme is never good. Its all about balance, as you know ;)

    Oh and I realized most women are “messy”. I’m not “dirty” but I just tend to get lazy and not hang coats up. After a little while, I give up and just clean because I cant handle the mess anymore. I find most guys I know to be more organized but dirtier.

  30. Great post!
    About #7: I hope you do get back into playing and singing music, esp when you get the use of your injured arm back. I am a professional musician, but I actually often envy people who play just for fun, without pressure and free to do whatever you want. I think of music the way I think of exercise or cooking, in that it shouldn’t warrant comparison with others. I am very much a novice when it comes to exercise, and if I were to compare myself and my level to others, I would be overwhelmed by feelings of inadequacy that might lead me to give up altogether. But that isn’t the point of exercise. I do it because it makes me feel better and I do what I enjoy. And that’s how I think of music as well. :-)

    • That’s a good way of putting it. I’ve learned to stop comparing myself to others in terms of what I can do for exercise, but I clearly never stopped comparing my musical abilities to those of the professionals!! Silly, really. Thanks for the wisdom :)

  31. I agree about giveaways. I really feel they take away from the blogs overall content. I actually need to start taking a calcium supplement that doesn’t irritate my stomach.

    Great Post Susan.

  32. I love your honesty Susan!! And I agree with Dani, moving home does NOT make you a loser. It sounds like you need your family now and they need you, so I think that’s exactly what you should do. :D

  33. I love brutal honest, but I honestly suck at doing it. I admire people like you who lay it all out there. It’s a life goal that I am working towards.

    I want to apologize, because I think I may have been one of those people who said something along the lines of you’ll be better before you know it. Looking back it was insensitive, and I did not mean to trivialize what you are going through at all! I know what it’s like to not be able to use certain appendages – it totally sucks!

    I know it’s easier for me to say, but I feel like I want to give you some enouragement here about moving home. You are not a loser. We all have our own journeys to make in life, and the places that we go and the steps we make are no better or worse than anyone else’s. You have your reasons, you know yourself, and that, my dear, is what matters at the end of the day.

    Give yourself a one-armed hug for me!

    • I honestly don’t remember who made what comments to me about my injury, so you’re off the hook! ;) I feel bad saying that too, especially when I have an injury that WILL get better. I know I have many readers coping with conditions that may never get better, so saying I’ll be back to normal eventually is a huge positive from their perspective. I totally get it!

  34. Don’t feel like a loser for moving home! I think being close to family is important and a lot of people don’t realize this until it’s too late!
    As for your #6…I agree. I have a friend who has been reading some paleo blogs. Now she freaks out about eating beans and rice. I say if the human body can bounce back from broken bones, drug addiction, famine, and illness surely it can withstand a few grains and legumes. Vegans live incredible long lives eating this way!
    #9 I’m glad someone else is messy to. I do basic stuff like dishes and bathroom cleaning. I don’t want any chance of smell, mold, or bugs but clutter. I just don’t mind. You are liable to find anything anywhere in my house.

    My confession? I read tons of blogs while at work but I only like about four (yours is one of course!). The rest are just habit. Why I waste so much time reading recipes that I know I won’t make and have ingredients I don’t like I will never know. One reason I like your blog is because you have a good mix of food, travel, fitness, and general observations that are often amusing.

    Another confession…I hate twitter. I signed up for it years ago and have never posted anything and I don’t want to start. This kind of ties in with your hatred of blog giveaways. I hate when to enter you have to follow on twitter, Facebook, leave a comment, link the giveway on your blog…yada, yada, yada. At that point I’ll just go buy the product if I want to go to that much trouble to try it.

    • I love Twitter! It takes a while to sort of “get” it, but it can be a lot o fun once you get the hang of it :) Having to jump over hoops for a giveaway drives me NUTS! If I do enter one, the most I’ll do is comment. I don’t want to annoy my readers or Twitter followers with a bunch of giveaway links.

  35. 1. No need to feel like a loser for moving home! You’re doing what is right for you and your family.

    2. Don’t think I’ve ever tried reading a book one handed. I probably couldn’t do it either.

  36. Love the post, and you!

    I agree about giveaways – I’ve had people contact me before about doing them but they’re either not open to Canadians or by the time Canadians cover the shipping they prettymuch can’t get anything for their prize., so I’ve declined. What the hell America, we’re just right next door!! I also hate the whole like my FB page/tweet about this/etc to get more entries thing people are doing now. Is it really necessary? One way to win is enough for me.

    People being too much on the health-obsessed side of eating is also a pet peeve of mine. I hate when every day people just eat tiny salads or say they add “1 tsp” of PB to their breakfast, or are like “A tiny square of dark chocolate for dessert – more than enough for me!” Seriously?

  37. Apparently the Kobo reader is light enough to read with one hand. I haven’t tried it, but it might be something to look into if the reading thing is really bothering you.

    I am also not a huge fan of giveaway posts. About knowing what you want to be when you grow up, I don’t think it matters. The average person changes careers what, 5 times? Sometimes it really IS about the journey. Life is not supposed to reach this static place where you find the perfect thing and repeat the exact same day over and over again.That would be Groundhog Day. And that’s practically prison. So why do we aspire toward it?

    As long as your next step feels right, that’s the best anyone can do, I think.

    • I LOVE your thoughts about life being journey as opposed to reaching a static place. That is such a great way of looking at it. And makes me wonder we’re taught to aspire to it? Definitely words to remember :)

  38. I confess that I like giveaways. I think they’re fun so long as it’s a once in a great while thing. I hate when there are 85904375 complicated ways to enter them, though. Leave a comment, tweet it, fine–but liking on Facebook and blogging about it and taking a picture of you with a shaved poodle or something to enter? No way.
    I also confess that I think some blogs use WAY too many photos. I do not need to see 758493 pictures of snow, or oatmeal, or whatever. Edit. One or two pictures of a meal is plenty IMO.
    Also my pictures suck and I don’t really care. I don’t really like food photography or being in pictures, I like writing, and I take pictures just to break up text. I want a DSLR, but it’s mostly because I want to have a kid soon and I want decent pictures of him/her.

  39. Your honesty is refreshing. And the part about women bouncing all over the place seems to be so true! I’ve certainly lived that, while my husband is just the opposite. Sometimes I think life would be a lot easier if I had that mindset.

    Something I’ve been wanting to get off my chest? I try to have the most positive outlook I can every day with regard to being a business owner and convey that on my blogs. But there are days – especially recently – where the stress becomes too much, and I shut down emotionally. Sometimes the stress of writing my own paycheck overpowers the love I have for being my own boss. But at the end of the day, I know I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I just wish it wasn’t so hard to see that sometimes!

    Hm…ramble much? :)

    • Thank you for your honesty Jenn! We all dream of being our own boss and sometimes conveniently forget the stress of having to work a lot harder for that paycheck. Something I learned as a personal trainer, and probably my least favourite part of it!

  40. Thank you thank you thank you for your honesty! There are too many people trying to be fake out there because they think that is what others want, which isn’t true for everyone. I’m a brutally honest person and in my mind it takes guts to write a post like this.
    I also appreciate your honesty because I can relate to a couple of things in your post. I’ve had to move back home as an adult in the past and it certainly was challenging to keep my head up somedays. But we’re not the only ones and if it’s a better decision for this time, then you have to do it. I also suffered an injury 5 years ago that had many people telling me I would be “better in no time”… I wanted to believe them, but the reality is that I still have chronic pain to this day (and now I hear different comments for sure).
    We all do our best to stay strong and keep moving on, and really, that’s the best we can do. And if you love singing/playing an instrument, do it!! Trust me, if anyone shouldn’t be singing… it’s me LOL
    Stay strong girl!! :) <3

  41. WOo.! loved your honesty. and it’s healthy that you know it’s gonna take a long ass time to heal. shit, 4 years later and my arm still hurts sometimes. no time? not so much. at least you recognize that. with that said, i think that your mindset and ability to overcome obstacles WILL make the healing process faster than it would be for people that don’t have a drive like you do. i am messy.. so messy.. so is marshall.. it’s bad for our house. sometimes i wish i was an OCD clean freak. not so much. i love adora discs! i have the dark chocolate but it sounds like i need to pick up milk chocolate next time i am out.


  42. If you don’t mind staring at a computer screen for a long time, you can download the Amazon Kindle app. onto your computer and read books from there. There are a ton of free books, which is good for my bank account. Many of the free ones are very weird, but if you are like me, and just want to read something (anything!), then you might like some of them.

    Also, you aren’t a loser for moving back home. I think that even if you didn’t want to, you still would have a really good (one-armed) reason. You did some exploring and can now say you live where you want to. If you must know, I’m slightly jealous. I wish I had the guts to move to a strange city and have all the fantastic adventures like you did.

  43. Love this post. So much (so much that I am replying on a blog since…the last post of yours that drew me into blogosphere!) Agree with so much. Don’t even know where to start.

    RE injuries- yes, yes and YES. That frustrated me too. I know it’s an automatic response and people don’t want to say NOTHING but it’s definitely felt undermining at times. Hope it wasn’t me that said it- I know I said we should pair up since I have arms and you have legs! ;)

    Also moving back with parents. Done this. Several times. All after moving to NY and not having to come back. Girl- you had the courage to move somewhere new and try something totally different and WAY out of your comfort zone. And that isn’t something that many people can say. If that makes you a “loser”, then we are defining the word differently. I don’t want to sound all gushy and crazed but seriously, you have, time and time again, blown me away with the leaps you take to chase the things you want. And ultimately…at the end of the day, family are all we have. Jobs and gym memberships won’t make you soup when you are sick or look after you when you are old or share excitement with you looking at old photos of when you were a kid- family will. (Sorry to hear things are difficult right now :/ )

    Could have written the music thing too. I quit because I wasn’t good enough. Which I believed was a fact but was my perception. I am slowly coming around to the idea that music is a passion and about fun- not about what anyone thinks. If they are even thinking. You like it? Go for it. Sing as loud as you want and strum away with your toes if it maks you happy. The good musicians are the artists- like a good writer. They come alive through their work and THAT is what makes a story or piece of music spectacular. It’s like seeing human beings in different forms and how well you play has nothing to do with it. This does not apply to drunken karaoke, by the way- unless everyone else is also drunk.

    And so much I could say about the health obsession… I have a slightly different perspective I think given my struggles but share the sentiment. What I have found hard over the past few months as I have seperated from blog world so much is that I see it through different eyes- coming to the realisation that some of my “role models” (I started reading blogs because I genuinely had NO idea how to eat/function in day-to-day life and really aspired to ‘copy’) are praised for something a blogger with an ED history would get SLAMMED for really rubs me the wrong way. I’ve posted about it before- the blurry line between eating disorders and food blogs and the line seems to get fuzzier by the day. I now read the ones that are about living life in a balanced way- there are no shortage of them but I often wonder how many people are reading and taking what people have said as healthy advice. //ramble

    (hope you don’t mind my novel-esque reply!)

    • …and now I remember that wordpress won’t let me edit my comments!

    • Ellie, I want to respond to almost everything you said here, but for brevity’s sake I won’t. Just know that I appreciate what you’ve said on each topic SO much. The moving thing, family thing, the music thing (some very wise words there) and the blogger thing. I still think we’d make a killer duo with our injuries combined ;) xoxo

  44. Good for you, I loved reading this post. I felt the same when I had hurt my back last year, everyone was telling me to stay positive and I just wanted to scream! I couldn’t exercise which was making lose my mind. I can totally get how you must be feeling, you will get better but its a shitty waiting game x x x

  45. I’m a little late, but great post! My mom broke her leg about a month ago (on the ice) and she gets so angry when people tell her it will all be better soon…Its been a long and painful process and she still has a long way to go (lost of physical therapy before she can walk on it).
    On moving back home, I’m in a similar situation but haven’t moved back in yet. I worried about what people would think, here I am in my mid 20’s back at home…but I don’t really care anymore. I need to live for me not based on what everybody else thinks.
    Not knowing what I want to be when I grow up, I’m there with you!

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